Consciously or not, we are all on a quest for answers, trying to learn the lessons of life. We grapple with fear and guilt. We search for meaning, love, and power. We try to understand fear, loss, and time. We seek to discover who we are and how we can become truly happy.
– Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Every day we make a lot of mistakes, and continuously we’re in the process of correcting those. If that were not the case, I could not have written this post, nor would you’ve wasted time reading it.
I know it isn’t easy to forgive ourselves for the actions that we never took. We wasted our time doing nothing or something useless. Those decisions reflect our amateur thinking.
If we knew the impact of our past actions, we’d never act that way. It was not a choice. We couldn’t have done anything better with our knowledge at that time. So please, forgive yourself. There is no other choice. You can’t return to the past and take the bet you left unattended.
We did something, and later we discovered our decision was wrong. Now we feel guilty after making a mistake. Isn’t that pointless to feel that way. What if your decision would’ve proved to be right?
Listen, my dear. Life is gambling. We take a bet on something based on our knowledge and experience. A few times do we win, and many times we lose. You’re feeling guilty because you’ve not calculated the involved risk.
After making a mistake, we can do only three things:
- Accept the mistake.
- Learn from the mistake.
- Never repeat the same mistake.
Apart from that, if you’re thinking about anything else is non-sense masturbation; no matter how many times you do it, the result is the same. You’re never satisfied.
Forgive yourself for everything that you did wrong or happened wrong to you. Learn the lessons and move on. Explore new places, meet strangers, make friends, learn from them, and try to understand that everyone is fighting a battle. Everyone is making a lot of mistakes every day. The whole planet is suffering from the same disease of guilt and shame.
Can you count how many mistakes are there in this post?
There are more than you can think of and more than I can expect a response from you. But I don’t care because I’ll never learn about my mistakes if I do not write. The more I’ll note, the fewer mistakes I’ll make, and then only I get the chance to meet someone who can point out the exact error I make every day. After that, there will be a kind of perfection I seek in my writing.
That’s the same perfection you seek in your work, but you’re afraid of making mistakes. My dear, guilt is just a mask you’re wearing; what you’ve to worry about is the fear of making mistakes. Please don’t take it seriously. There is no need to feel guilty about anything. There is no mistake that you can’t correct. What you need is integrity. Practice learning that.
With integrity, you have nothing to fear, since you have nothing to hide. With integrity, you will do the right thing, so you will have no guilt.
– Zig Ziglar