“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”
― Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons In Personal Change
We don’t want to understand the perspective of the speaker. We’re in a hurry to reply. We’re eager to present our idea to her without knowing whether she has completed it.
Communication is all about listening. You can be a good orator even if you don’t have the patience to attend, but you can become a great communicator only if you’ve got the habit of listening well.
You probably could have done better because you need to understand more about the subject she was talking about. Your attention was not on her words but on vomiting as soon as possible.
If you wish to become an effective communicator, you must have to listen to your voice. Take a book and read it aloud like children. Please don’t feel like you have to worry. You’re learning to understand what you’re speaking.
The next time you meet someone, you’ll be able to listen to her like an audiobook. You may understand the problem she’s discussing with you.
