How To Handle The Fear Of Rejection?
One of the deepest fears within us is the fear of rejection. We don’t want to feel embarrassed in front of others and protect our ego by forming a shield that controls our speech and action. We want to look superior in the eyes of others, and many times we don’t say what’s within our hearts. We wait for the perfect moment to come, which never comes.
To propose to someone we love the most, we give excuses that we’re not ready, but the truth is that we’re scared to death at the thought of rejection.
It hurts when someone rejects our proposal. The ego can’t tolerate the embarrassment caused by refusal. Hence it says better not to say anything or take any action.
Is that fine?
No. It will become a habit to give excuses for everything. Every time you’ll start looking at your comfort zone.
Just go and express your emotions and feelings to her. She’s a human being who has a heart but don’t expect anything from her. If she says no, there is no need to force her. Set her free. Love can’t be snatched or stolen.
I know that your love is true, but it’s not unconditional until you accept her decision with your heart.
Isn’t it true that you want to see her happy?
Then why you’re getting attached to her, creating afflictions in the life of both you and her?
Love is not about having a physical relationship with someone or imposing your emotions and feelings on someone in the name of love. It’s a dimension that we experience when we’re fearless, and many times, a person becomes the center of focus with whom we wish to become intimate, but overall it’s not about getting someone.
There is one love, and that is self-love. If you love yourself, you’ll never feel the hurt or embarrassment of the refusal. No one has the power to diminish you in any way. You alone are responsible for your thoughts, words, imaginations, and actions.
She’s merely a reflection of your insecurities, prejudices, heuristics, and expectations.
Please don’t blame her for anything. She’s innocent. Your love for her is your responsibility. Learn to use the love within you to inspire yourself and create something constructively. Love is the most significant force in the Universe that has the power to transform everything, and who knows how many lives you can impact with your creation. She’ll love your product even if she doesn’t love you because it will be the greatest gift that you can give to her. You’ll not regret loving her unconditionally.