What do you fear the most?
Is that fear of dying or fear of public speaking?
Are you afraid of losing money or someone close to your heart?
Do you have a fear of being alone or fear of criticism?
Are you afraid of poverty or dis-ease?
I don’t know what kind of fear you’re facing the most, but below is a comprehensive list of a few common concerns.
- Fear of death
- Fear of ill-health
- Fear of criticism
- Fear of poverty
- Fear of loss of a loved one
- Fear of old age
- Fear of loneliness
- Fear of public speaking
- Fear of losing money
We’ve got a fear that we’ll lose the prestige we have one day. We’re afraid that we can lose the love and respect of people for us in their eyes. We’re scared up to death at the thought of not having enough money to survive.
Everywhere our heads are preoccupied with the thoughts of fear and failure, and our hands don’t dare to take action. Fear has conquered us.
Looking at the above list, every fear results from our conditioning. We’ve got a poor approach to life. We seek safety and security everywhere; that is worthless; it’s hard found on earth. We can’t play safely under all conditions. We’ve to accept the truth that we’ve to face the fear.
With acceptance comes the energy and enthusiasm to conquer our fears. Writing this article, I’m facing the fear of criticism. No one is here to comment on me; still, I lack the confidence to say what’s in my heart. That’s fear, and we all have that.
So, what’s the solution?
How can we conquer fear of all kinds?
The answer is you can’t conquer all fears at once. The best way is to understand whether the anxiety you’re witnessing right now here at this moment is natural or not. If it’s natural, then you don’t need to conquer it. Just observe the thoughts creating the fear response in you, and it will vanish, and if it’s unnatural, like you’ve got a phobia of something, then there is a need to pay attention to the details.
Most of our fears are because of our childhood programming. We’re programmed in a structured way to have these fears. Theoretically, we can learn a lot about the concern that we face every day, but we can’t overcome them without examining the child within us who feels it all.
We’ve to learn and understand the anxiety and depression of this child who is afraid of failure.
We can research this child’s mind through empathy and compassion, which is afraid of everything around us.
This child is our memory imposing as a present reality. There is no ghost here, but still, the fear of the spirit is confirmed, at least in mind because the child’s mind is filled with scary stories. We’ve to understand those stories and verify whether they’re true. Only then is there a possibility that we can convince the child’s mind that there is no fear; it’s an illusion. Mere theoretical knowledge is not enough. We’ve to feel the fear, and by overcoming it, we’ve to present an example that she can believe in. Action, not knowledge, is a prerequisite to conquering our fears.